Apr 25, 2011

My Best Life: Silencing The Negative Voices

Last Week's Strategy
Last week's strategy was to be a more responsible consumer. The funny thing is, I really didn't get to put this strategy to work because I did not buy anything this week.... no food, no products, nothing. I will continue to have an awareness of this strategy over the coming weeks. Next Sunday the farmer's market near my home opens up for the season. This will help my strategy because I hope to get much of my fresh fruits and vegetables from the market throughout the summer months.

This Week's Strategy
I am worthless.
I can't do anything right today.
I'm a bad mother.
I'm incapable.
What's wrong with me?
The negative voices go on and on. They rob me of my confidence and they put insecurity and depression in its place.

I just recognized today how deafening these negative voices can be. All I hear is negativity. At times I vocalize these negative thoughts (yes, I talk to myself... don't we all?). I realized I can never achieve a peaceful, happy life if I allow my inner voice to be so negative.

The irony is that on the outside, to others, I am an upbeat, positive and optimistic person. So why the negativity? Why do I beat myself up? Why am I never good enough, smart enough, pretty enough?

I'm certain there are others in the world who struggle with those inner voices. But how do I silence them? What am I to do?

Today, I realized that I am entitled to think good things about myself. As of today, I am going to make a conscientious effort to silence those negative voices and turn my attention to the positive voices. From now on, when I hear a negative thought, I will immediately refute it and turn it into a positive thought. Hopefully, with a sensitive ear turned inwards I can start thinking about myself in a more positive light. With time, I hope those voices will say:
I am worthy.
I can do anything.
I am a good mother.
I am capable and competent.
Everything about me is right.
I love being me.
I would like to wish you a wonderful week!


  1. We are our own worst enemies. It is amazing how hard we can be on ourselves. After reading "The Art of Happiness" I paid attention to just how much I was saying things like "I am so fat, I am such an idiot" out loud to myself and about myself to my husband. What a waste of energy! Once I cut down on this I saw an improvement in my overall mood and outlook. I still lapse but at least recognize that this isn't constructive and attempt to correct it.

    So remember: you are beautiful, you are smart and funny, you are loved! And I am too :D

  2. Thanks for your comment Katie.

    I think I'll check out The Art of Happiness too (I haven't heard of it) - it sounds like it had a positive influence on you and I'm always looking for inspiration and ways to live a happier life.

  3. i have similar thoughts often. then i remember who God made me to be. and i know what he thinks about me. he loves me. he created me in his image. i am fearfully and wonderfully made. and, so are you. i don't know what you think about God, but i do know that He loves you so much! and he made YOU in his image too. and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. and the more you get to know him and the value that he places in you the more you will be able to conquer these feelings. knowing him doesn't make everything wonderful and peachy for me... but when it comes down to it i know that i am loved. and it makes me happy. most days :) if you get a chance read psalm 139 about some of what God thinks about you!

  4. hi i also have those negative voices, and they really do hunt me i just don't know what to do anymore my life is becoming worse and worse day by day. i distance myself not only from random people but from my family members, father, mother brothers etc. i wish i could , i wish i could tell my self that everything about me is right oh how i wish but unfortunately i can get to say it but deep down those voices just laugh at me and fall right back at the beginning telling my self i'm worthless, i'm a joke i'm nothing just another soul in this over populated world and my life does not matter wether i die now or later will not change anything, i don't think it would matter if i died i don't think people would even notice me gone they wouldn't even remember i existed, like my life is meaning less with no past no present and defiantly NO future.

  5. @Mohamed Nasr I think you should read the previous comments here... there's always hope and your future is what you make of it.


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